Is it possible to discuss something like directions for a middle aged woman here? Is there such a thing? Where do I go? Is there somewhere in the world for me? Do I have a purpose? Is it too late for me? Any other questions?
Directions for a middle aged woman
In the last few years I have talked to a lot of women who are the same age as me. They nearly all have similar stories to tell. We all seem to experience the same things.
The one thing that seems to come out is how we are made to feel invisible. We walk into camera stores and suddenly we don’t exist. If we do manage to get the attention of a sales assistant then there is a patronising or condescending tone to them. Of course, it doesn’t happen in every store, but most of us have been to a store where we experienced that.
The question of is there a future for me is something I ask myself a lot and one I’m still asking.
Money and Time
We find many companies don’t care about us either. Which really surprises me and makes me wonder about their marketing departments. In my experience, the people who have, not only the money to spend on photography, but also the time are middle-aged women.
For most of us, our kids are on their own, and we are looking for something to fill that gap. I don’t know how many women I’ve spoken to who have started photography for exactly that reason. We are earning more money, or our husbands are, and we can spend it on photography gear.
Not to mention that many of us are winding down our careers, working part-time and our kids no longer need us. There is the time to get out and experiment with our new hobbies, or in other cases, get back to it and spend more time with it.
I don’t know the answer to this one. It isn’t just in stores that it happens.
When I’ve been out I’ve been treated like a moron. Like an absolute beginner who knows nothing about photography. People take one look at me and figure that because I’m an overweight middle-aged woman how could I know anything. Mind you most of those doing that are men.
Guys will talk cameras to me and when they see I don’t care about the technical aspects of it they are even more condescending. What, just because I don’t know all that stuff I wouldn’t be able to take good images. Apparently.
There have even been times when I’ve been out and the person has tried to tell me how to take photos.
It is the assumption that drives me nuts. It is the way they look at me and assume that I couldn’t know anything. That I need all the help I can get.
Of course, that is if I am seen by them.
Many times I am just ignored. I don’t necessarily mind that, but when I am with men, or younger people there is a difference. Why is that? It doesn’t make sense.
If it were just me, then I that would be different. However, there are a lot of us out there that feel the same.
So what do we do?
Is there anything that can change things?
I don’t know what they are, but I think we can start a discussion here.
So the point of this blog is to ask for your help. I want to hear from all the middle-aged women out there. I want to know what your experiences are. How do you feel when you go out to take photos? What have you experienced? Not just from other people.
I want to start making some changes here that will make this blog more personal. I’ve hidden myself so much. It didn’t seem possible that people would still follow me if they could see the real me. I know many of you have noticed that I’ve been doing more personal posts. That is going to continue.
When I had that horrible experience in New Zealand, I knew it was time for me to come out, so to speak. Be more transparent.
It is time to make a stand and be me. I hope you will join me, but I also want to hear from you. Let’s work out what directions their are for a middle aged woman.
So here is another selfie of me, but this time I’m with Beth. She is a new friend from Western Australia who was over here recently. I’m the one on the left.
All the photos today are all of trees in water or on rocks.