Making changes is something I’m doing a lot right now and part of it could be because middle age sets in, or there could be other reasons, who knows.
Why we are making changes as middle age sets in
On the weekend my daughters came home for dinner. It is something we want to make sure we do often so we get to see them regularly. When my youngest, who has just moved out, arrived she looked around the house and wanted to know why I was sorting out the house now, now that she has moved out.
What could I say? It wasn’t on purpose it was just all about the timing. My husband and I decided that my time would be better spent sorting and cleaning out our house. Not for any reason in particular, except that it is long overdue.
Unlike many other people, we don’t want to sell our house to downsize. When we bought our house we had only bought it for the short term, thinking we would only live here for five years. That was 25 years ago, actually almost 26.
We ended up with two children growing up in the house. I should mention that it isn’t a big house. Three bedrooms and only one living area. We watched so many people extending their houses or moving to larger houses as their families grew, but we never had the money to do that. We managed as best we could.
Our girls shared a room until they were teenagers and we had to give up having one room as a study so they could have their own rooms.
Now in Middle Age
Well, now we are so glad we never could afford that. Both of them have moved out and the house is just right for us. If we downsized really, the only difference may have been that we would only have two bedrooms instead of three.
We have also spent a fortune making our house energy efficient We have changed all the heating and cooling and replaced all the lights with LEDs. On top of that, we replaced the roof and covered it in solar panels. It has been 12 months since we paid for electricity, you have to love that.
The Problem with making changes
There is a problem with all of this. My husband and I both had families that moved all the time, well every couple of years. One of the advantages of that is that you sort through stuff all the time, well every couple of years.
So here we are 26 years later and we have 26 years of crap filling our house. I’m so glad I’ve been allowed this time to sort through stuff and work out what we need and don’t. It is also funny that as I get to this age what matters to me has changed. I am just getting rid of stuff. I’m ruthless in a lot of situations. Maybe ten years ago I wouldn’t have been. I’m loving it.
So what now?
This has to be great for my photography. It means that I can just concentrate on what I want to. There is no need to worry about classes and workshops. Or trying to do things that will make people want me to teach them. Really, I don’t even need to take photos if I choose, though I am finding I want to do it even more now.
My desire has really come back, but more importantly, I want to start doing the work I really want to do. I am trying to build up my courage to go out more on my own, which I am starting to do more. Really, and I’ve even been enjoying it. My next trip is going to be one that will be a bit of a drive, but that will be okay too.
Obviously I don’t spend all day doing housework. That would drive me insane. Not too mention that it has to be done slowly as there is only so much rubbish you can throw out at a time. I have to ration it so to speak. Still there is no time limit, so it will all get done eventually.
I want to explore more of my photography too and get back to doing some things I’ve always wanted to try. I’m itching to get back to baking, I loved doing that when I was growing up, so now I want to do it more and then photograph what I’ve done.
Perhaps this blog will become more experimental as well. I want it to be more personal, more about me, and I hope you like that too.
Anyway time to stop there. I hope this doesn’t scare you off and I really hope you will be along for the journey, wherever that takes us.
The photos in the post today I’ve taken from the first few months of me blogging here on my self hosted site. They are from late 2013 and early 2014. Great looking back on what I’ve done to help me see how I got to where I am now. I might even start picking some and reprocessing them. See how different they will turn out. Could be interesting.